<h1 style="text-align: center;"><strong>The Western Female Value System</strong></h1>
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<p>The typical western female's value system is aligned with avoiding responsibility and prioritizing emotion. They are not creatures of their word. They will say something "in the moment" and have a different view later on when their mood is different. They will usually exhibit this behaviour when there are no consequences for it. Obviously, they can't do this at a job since the consequence would be termination of employment, but for situations where the only potential consequence is a disgruntled friend/lover, they will do this and not think twice about it (since it won't directly affect them).</p>
<p>If you follow the chain of events before, during, and after a "flake event" you will see that a woman's actions are heavily skewed towards avoidance of discomfort. While we often scrutinize <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/annoying-guy-behavior-deal-with-it-or-dealbreaker/" rel="dofollow">annoying guy behavior</a>, we must also acknowledge that women frequently engage in deal-breaking behaviors like flaking without facing the same social stigma.</p>
<p>For example, let's consider the following sequence leading up to the planning stages of a date and the subsequent cancellation (flake) that follows:</p>
<p>1. Guy sets up a date with a girl. She accepts (because she doesn't want to say no and deal with potential "hurt" feelings)</p>
<p>2. The day before, or a few hours before the date, she calls to tell the guy that something came up and she can't make it. Result: no date</p>
<p>If you look at this closely you'll see that she managed to get out of the date without having to take a shred of responsibility for it. By accepting the date at the beginning she is avoiding the responsibility of having to explain how she really feels. And by canceling the date later on (using an excuse) she is avoiding the responsibility of going through with something she originally agreed to.</p>
<h2>Passive-Aggressive Patterns In Modern Dating</h2>
<p>There are many more real-world examples of course. Any guy who has done a serious amount of dating can name a few off the top of his head.</p>
<p>The clinical term for this behaviour is passive-aggressive personality disorder. It's incredibly common among modern women. It's how they go through life avoiding as few bumps and bruises as possible. Of course there's another more urban term for this kind of behaviour, which I will designate as "chickenshit". This aligns with the dynamics observed in <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/mean-girls-mean-women/" rel="dofollow">mean girls mean women</a>, where indirect aggression and avoidance are preferred over direct confrontation.</p>
<p><em>I'm afraid I must file you under chickenshit</em> --- Kurt Russell, Death Proof</p>
<p>One question to be asked is, how many women are like this? If I had to guess I would say at least 50% of women do this on a regular basis. And the numbers skyrocket for the serial-daters among us, and women who like attention (even from men they aren't interested in).</p>
<p>You don't need to watch the nature channel to see the wild. You can just observe the behaviour patterns of the <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States/state-of-North-Dakota.html?gender=female">modern female in the dating arena</a>, one of the most unregulated social mediums there are, lacking in all manners of civility.</p>
<h2>Strategies For Dealing With Unreliable Women</h2>
<p>A while ago, I wrote a post on Give And Take, the basis of which is equality. But I feel I must add a special escape clause for those instances where a woman shows that she is unwilling or unable to play the "gentleman's" game. One of the most essential <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/10-helpful-tips-for-a-healthy-relationship/" rel="dofollow">tips for a healthy relationship</a> is learning to actually listen and respect boundaries, but when she refuses to do either, you must adjust your strategy accordingly.</p>
<p>Therefore, I propose the following:</p>
<p>If a woman proves herself to be somewhat fickle, and at the mercy of her whims then it's best to let her do all the pursuing. Give-and-take won't apply with this type of woman since it's a concept based on integrity. So it's best to let her pursue you (suggest get togethers, etc.), and IF you are available & willing then you make the time. Note however, that give-and-take applies by default, when you enter a situation with someone new. It means that, by assumption, you are willing to do your share of the work, since it's a concept based on equality and fairness. But with whimsical, emotionally unregulated women this won't apply. So your best bet is to do LESS than your normal share, in some cases much less. This is a very different philosophy from the commonly held belief that when women don't do "X" you have to do "X" for them. In this case the philosophy is, when women don't do "X", you also don't do "X" - which can be extended to not doing "Y" or "Z" either (if the situation demands extra heavy-handedness).</p>
<p>In other words, play fair until it's time to not play fair.</p>
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